Why Did Dad Abandon me? Or did he?

Its difficult to start this one; but I am going to write this as my point of view being a step mom and witnessing my husband being accused of this by his children.

His oldest accused him of abandoning them, she was very verbal on how she felt. very harsh, hurtful things were said to him. Very disrespectful, but you know what we don't blame her. She has witnessed only her mothers side and only heard her mothers side. She never gave her dad the chance, he was made to look bad from day one. #askdad

As she has grown older and is a young adult now, who suffers from depression and anxiety, I am sure that is his fault also. How? Ask yourself.

Dad was forced out of their lives, #momplaysvictim 

Dad was not given a choice where he would go, or anything when mom decided she was done with him. She had already bought the plane ticket.  #dadisheartbroken

You see mom has admitted she made a mistake and wanted dad back, #adultery Dad did not want to take her back, he could not forgive her of her #adultery, trust was broken.

That is when things started getting more difficult, Mom started cutting his phone time down, and less communication, it was okay for her to replace dad, with #theloveofherlife who she separated from shortly after marrying, still wanting dad back, but found out dad had remarried and just wanted to be dad. #askdad 

So my question is did dad abandon you or was he forced to no contact? #askdad #momisalienator 

Ex Wife is a bully to Ex husband After Divorce (Kids Notice)

When we think of Couples going through a ugly divorce people assume that its that man who is the bully, We instantly imagine its the poor ex wife who is left to struggle under his emotional, financial, verbal attacks.

Honestly, I thought that too, until I met my now husband, then it became obvious that there are women out there that bully, before, during and after the divorce.

1) One of the cruelest and most vicious ex wife tactics manipulating that children, reasons could be;

a) you want more money
b) angry he is making a new life
c) he's not begging to come back

2) Everything he does is wrong, you belittle him, taking potshots,
saying to the children:
a) he abandoned you
b) he is stupid
c) he don't love you
d) you criticize everything about him

3) You intercept his time with the children, and gifts sent.


Does this sound like you? Then you are and ex wife BULLY

Its time for the Ex husband to start standing his ground, no more power will be given to the bully.

Somehow the children got lost in this, and their needs were not put first.
Every child needs both their parents in their lives, in some way shape or form. Its important that they have a solid relationship.

Remember your children are paying attention, Don't you want them to have positive relationships?

Why I pray for my husbands EX

I wasn’t entirely sure I would post this.  I’ve had this sitting in my brain for a few months now, and I couldn’t decide if I should write it, because somehow I feel kind of weird and awkward telling other people that I pray for my husband’s ex-wife.  The thing is, though, I think we need more people to pray for their awkward situations and the people they don’t always get along with.  The world would be a better place.

So I decided to sit down and thoughtfully write this out.  I hope it encourages you to be the stepmom God wants you to be and that you will decide to pray for your husband’s ex-wife too.  So here it is.

Why I pray for my husband’s ex-wife:

 Regardless of what I think of her at different points in time, my husband’s ex-wife is a person too, and God loves her.   If God loves her, and if Jesus tells us to “love your neighbor as yourself,” shouldn’t I pray for her as I would want others to pray for me?    She is a person, and she is loved by God; therefore, she needs and is deserving of my prayers.

 Chances are, she hurts too.  Regardless of what your husband has told me about their divorce (how it happened, how she hurt him, etc.), I can guarantee you that there was some amount of pain on her end that my husband inflicted.  Although, It may not be as deeply hurting as cheating,  but my point is that, no matter what she did to my husband, he hurt her as well.  She needs prayer to overcome her pain.

 Most importantly, she is the mother of my step children.  What affects her affects them.  This includes her relationships, her finances, her spiritual well-being, her emotional and mental well-being, and her health.  What affects my step children affects me, because their attitudes and behaviors will reflect how they are feeling.  If I want my step children to feel loved and secure at our home, why wouldn’t I want that for them all the time?

If you truly care for your step children, pray for their mother.  with Prayer, I will begin to forgive her for any hurt that she has caused us, and my feelings toward her may improve.  Even if I don’t feel like I love her like your “BFF,” at least I can look on her more positively.  And eventually, it is possible that her attitudes toward me will change, making life better for everyone involved.